A recent study from Chapman University reveals that lesbians experience orgasms more frequently than straight women. Researchers discovered that 86 percent of lesbian women consistently reached orgasm, compared to just 65 percent of straight women. Interestingly, only a third of women regularly climaxed from vaginal intercourse alone.
The female orgasm can be complex, but lesbians seem to have a better understanding of it. They know what sex feels like for a woman both physically and mentally, which allows them to focus on behaviors that lead to climax, according to study author David Frederick, Ph. D., assistant professor in health psychology at Chapman University.
Before you feel disheartened, consider adopting some of their strategies. Here are three insights from lesbians about the female orgasm and how you can apply them.
Make Time for Longer Sessions
The duration of sex, starting with foreplay, is a crucial factor in achieving orgasm for women. Men often become aroused more quickly than women, which can result in shorter sessions. However, lesbian couples typically take their time. In fact, 74 percent of lesbian women reported their last sexual encounter lasted 30 minutes or more. In contrast, less than half of straight women experienced sessions of this length.
Aim for at least 30 minutes in bed, including foreplay, as Frederick suggests. Consider exploring foreplay techniques or learning how to give her an orgasm with guidance from resources like Men’s Health.
Emphasize Oral Sex
Oral sex is the most significant predictor of a woman’s likelihood to orgasm. Lesbians often prioritize oral sex over vaginal intercourse, which allows for direct clitoral stimulation-a necessity for most women to reach orgasm, according to the Kinsey Institute. Enhance your skills with effective oral sex techniques to impress your partner.
Adopt a Turn-Taking Approach
Unlike the typical pattern in heterosexual relationships where sex ends after one partner orgasms, lesbians often practice a “turn-taking” approach. This means one partner climaxes, and then the other is brought to orgasm, avoiding the “one-orgasms-and-it’s-over” scenario.
To break the routine, bring her to orgasm before intercourse, as Frederick suggests, or stimulate her clitoris during sex to boost the chances of simultaneous orgasms.